Nanhe Nawaab

GOING UNDER the knife to reclaim virginity is a trend that seems to have shifted base from the Middle East to smaller Indian cities.

City doctors say that where almost 80 per cent of surgeries were conducted on those from the Middle East a few years ago, now women from small cities and towns in Maharashtra and neighbouring states – like Surat and Baroda – form the bulk.

If restructuring the hymen can help restructure lives after premarital sex, then hymenoplasty seems to be the right answer. The procedure involves creating a membrane about an inch into the vagina that resembles a natural hymen.

“I get occasional requests from young women who want to know about such procedures. Most of the requests come from small towns or some select communities, where virginity really counts,” said Dr Rishima Pai, gynaecologist with Lilavati and Jaslok hospital.

“With awareness and easy availability, more women are coming forward, sometimes accompanied by family members,” said Dr Milind Wagh, cosmetic surgeon at Dr L.H.Hiranandani Hospital.

“Another reason for the growing trend maybe the costs involved. With the procedure coming for anything between Rs 25,000 and Rs 40,000, those from small town can afford it. The demand from these regions is more because acceptance levels of premarital sex is lower,” said Dr Mohan Thomas, cosmetic surgeon at Breach Candy Hospital.

“It is disturbing but true that women are expected to be the epitome of virtue. As long as it’s her decision, it’s fine. But family and societal expectations to make her appear ‘pure’ is unfair,” said Dr Sharita Shah, psychiatrist at Saifee, Bhatia and Hurkisondas hospitals.

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Freedom is first of all a responsibility before the God from whom we come.

Freedom is nothing else but a chance to be better.

In the truest sense, freedom cannot be bestowed; it must be achieved.

They who would give up an essential liberty for temporary security, deserve neither liberty or security .

History does not long entrust the care of freedom to the weak or the timid.

You can only protect your liberties in this world by protecting the other man’s freedom. You can only be free if I am free.

We cannot defend freedom abroad by deserting it at home.

Those who profess to favor freedom and yet depreciate agitation, are people who want crops without ploughing the ground; they want rain without thunder and lightning; they want the ocean without the roar of its many waters. The struggle may be a moral one, or it may be a physical one, or it may be both. But it must be a struggle. Power concedes nothing without a demand; it never has and it never will.

जिस धज से कोई मक्ताल में गया होगा वो शान सलामत रहती है,
ये जान तो आनी-जानी है, इस जान की कोई बात नहीं!
आजादी के लिए लाखों नौजवान ने लहू दिया,
क्या हमने आज उनको भुला दिया है?
अगर नहीं भुलाया है—-
तो क्या हमारा लहू जम गया है,
आदमी आदमी से अनजान हो गया है!
गरीब और अमीर के बीच दीवार खड़ी है,
अमीर ऐशो आराम में चूर है, गरीब पर विषम घडी है!
इंडिया आगे बढ़ गया पर भारत पीछे छूट गया,
क्या हमारे दिल से भारत प्रेम मिट गया?
३० करोड़ लोग रोटी-कपडे-मकान को मोहताज हैं,
फिर कैसे कहें की हमारे सर पर ताज है!
नहीं मिली स्वाधीनता असमानता, गरीबी और भुखमरी से,
मुहिब-ए-वतन करो संग्राम की तैयारी अपनों से!
आजादी के लिए लाखों नौजवान ने लहू दिया,
वो लहू उन्होंने इंडिया या भारत नहीं हिन्दुस्तान के लिए दिया!
जात-पात, धर्म-छेत्र, स्त्री-पुरुष, गरीब-अमीर का भेद भाव जब मिट जायेगा
तब सही मायने में हिंदुस्तान आज़ाद कहलायेगा!
६१ वर्ष पश्चात अपनी आजादी अधूरी है
जिसे पूर्ण करने की जिम्मेदारी मेरी और तुम्हारी है!!

Slovakia’s Daniela Hantuchova

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The term ‘one-night stand’ comes from the world of showbiz, originally meaning a one- off theatre performance. Those three magic words - ‘one’, ‘night’ and ’stand - sound so casual and carefree. But read on, there are five important tips to consider, before starring in a one-night-only hook-up.
Emergency exit
Pre-arrange a call from a trusted dost early in the proceedings. That way, if your date is a crashing bore or potential psychopath, you can make a quick getaway. What? My aged daadi in Bhatinda has been rushed to hospital? You want me to come immediately? The phone-a-friend trick can be a timely lifeline.
Money nahi hai to honey hai
The rules of engagement in a one-night stand are simple. There’s no question of will they/won’t they? The main course on the menu is sex. There’s no need to spend your hard-earned rupees on London priced drinks at Tabula Rasa or Shalom. Instead, splash out 10 rupees max on bhel puri, and wash it down with a cholera cocktail of sugarcane juice. Then, the formalities of wining and dining over, make a beeline back to yours for something even spicier.
Help! I’ve been burgled!
It’s Murphy’s Law that the only time you score on a night out is when your place looks like it hasn’t seen a duster in weeks. The solution is, as you open the door… exclaim in wild surprise that your room has been raided by robbers. Why else would everything be in such disarray? It may work. But might not account for the overflow of old pizza boxes, or the science experiment growing in week-old tea cups.
Emergency contraception
You came. You saw. And you’re about to conquer. There’s just one final hurdle to get over before you jump into bed. Girls, did you forget to shave your legs before the date? Boys, are you wearing 25-rupee underwear, instead of your Calvin Klein pulling pants? If the answer to the above questions is ‘yes’, then the emergency contraception worked. Unshaved legs and cheap chaddis are the most effective methods of preventing unwanted pregnancy. Being too embarrassed to get undressed is the ultimate night-before-the-morning-after-pill.
No kismat konnection
Even if the sex was mind-blowing, do remember a one-night stand is just that. One night. Don’t go looking for a ‘kismat konnection’ with your new bedroom buddy. Don’t even expect a good morning cup of coffee. Just get up while they’re still zedding, hunt around the room for discarded clothing, and escape from the scene of the crime. Now for the hard part.
The walk of shame.
You are dishevelled, bleary-eyed and still half drunk. You are modeling bed head, and you’re in totally unsuitable evening wear that gives off the smell of sex and smoke. Respectable Delhiites on their way to work may give you a double take as you slink home. Still, if you got your paisa vasool from the sex, that’s worth any amount of curious looks from strangers.

Source: Yahoo